I am afraid that we have adopted the “winning is the most important thing” so much that we have forgotten how to lose with grace. Yes, I have won a championship as a coach, but the truth is that most of my moments were not singing some rendition of “One Shining Moment.”
My coaching gig is long done and now my basketball moments are spent doing stats for my wife’s girls’ varsity basketball team for our high school in Pembine. I have been associated with this team for almost five years now, with four of those years with my daughters playing, and now just having an excuse to hang with my wife.
There is more than one way to learn something, but not all are created equal.
For example, I love to cook meat on my barbecue and I also enjoy slicing the meat to prepare for eating. And there have been at least two ways that I have become experienced in how to cut meat.
The first method involves my wife. Since she is quite the culinary woman, she has instructed me in how to slice certain meats for both aesthetic appearance as well as a satisfying eating experience by our guests.
Back in a prior career, I was in the retirement plan division of a large insurance company. And after a few years, I was promoted to a regional team leader position. And this meant I had a team under me for which I was responsible.
There are two individuals from this team that stand out from that leadership experience. The first was an analyst who complained about any roadblock that was laying across his path. Thinking was confined to his desk. Every molehill was a mountain. Every customer was an idiot. Every problem was a setback with no creative solutions in sight.
And we had several conversations about these things. He was never going to go further than his current influence because that is what he chose for himself. Victim.
Change. Not a word we always like to speak about as leaders. Personal change is never easy, especially when it involves my own character. And there just seems to be an increased level of difficulty when it involves change of those around me with whom I have influence or responsibility. So how do I help others change?
I consider one of my roles as a leader to help shape those in my sphere of influence. Leading is not just about projects. It is more importantly about people.
Today we are on my final post of my “everyday carry” (or EDC) for leadership. It has been extremely helpful for me to think through those essentials that help me to be a strong leader and maximize my influence with others.
Have you ever considered those items that are foundational to your being an engaging leader? You need to. Because no one ever drifts into healthy leadership practices. What are your “go to’s”?
In the past three weeks, we have looked at some of the essentials of what I “carry with me” in order to have a vibrancy and robustness in interacting with people and projects: indispensable reads, personal character traits, and last week, apps that I use that are getting it done for me.
In recent weeks, I have been discussing that necessary gear, tangible or intangible, that is helping me be a more effective leader. I call them my “everyday carry” items for leadership. Part 1 is an ensemble of readings and writings that are making a dent in my thinking. Part 2 articulated four character traits that I deem absolutely essential to “getting it done.”
In part 3 today, I want to share with you four apps that are giving me the ability to manage my day as well as interactions with others. And these apps have both desktop and mobile versions available which give some nice multi-platform functionality.
This week continues the theme of “everyday carry” If you read last week’s post, it is all about those things that we carry with us that we deem as essential and necessary to help us in our day.
In a twist of the term, I wanted to challenge us that there should be an “everyday carry” for us as leaders, those indispensable tangibles or intangibles that make us what we want and need to be as leaders.
In part 2 of my everyday carry for leadership, I want to list four characteristics that have served me well in my almost 30 years of being in various leadership positions.
Have you every heard of the term “everyday carry” or EDC? It has become quite the phenomena. At its most literal meaning, everyday carry refers to those things that you carry everyday with you in your pockets or in your bag.
They are the essentials, the things you check for each time you leave the house, those things that you cannot do without. They speak of what helps you feel prepared, those items of utility that help create a more effective day. In another sense, it has fueled a desire for knowing what other people carry with them that they deem to be a great product.
Check out everydaycarry.com – it provides some great visuals if you have never been exposed to this concept before.
I definitely have my own set items that I deem to be of the everyday carry variety.
Have you ever caught yourself using a phrase that you then think later, “Is that really accurate? Is it even true?”
Sayings like “God helps those who help themselves.” or “Money is the root of all evil.”
I like succinct and to the point.
Take away the fluff and just give me the intended meaning. And it seems to always arrest my attention when I read something like “3 ways to better your productivity.” or “Get fit in 5 easy steps.”
Some years ago I was listening to a message on a couple of verses that have radically changed my perspective.
Thus says the LORD: Heaven is my throne, and the earth is my footstool; what is the house that you would build for me, and what is the place of my rest? All these things my hand has made, and so all these things came to be, declares the LORD. But this is the one to whom I will look: he who is humble and contrite in spirit and trembles at my word. (Isaiah 66:1-2)
I was struck by the fact that, though God is aware of all things, He says that He takes special interest in three things. And He does not beat around the proverbial bush – He names what they are. Today we will look into the final attribute: trembling at God’s word.