College days. Some good times in life and a good time for my life.
I look back at what I thought I knew about life then and it makes me cringe. I envisioned I had a good perspective, but the decades now behind me remind that I was not as mature about life as I thought.
Have you heard about the new app that is just killing it? It’s called Sarahah and it has quickly risen to the new #1 app in the Apple App Store.
It’s marketing push is simple: “Get honest feedback from your coworkers and friends.”
I enjoy the outdoors and how it rejuvenates me. And one of the newer hobbies I have taken up is riding a fat tire bike. I have mountain biked for some decades now, but having a mountain bike with 4-inch wide tires is a whole new adventure. I ride with a group of guys and we bomb around out in the woods…trail or no trail.
I can roll over tree limbs and rocks, motor through mud patches or snow, and can climb about anything. And part of the fun is that I ride with guys who really know the sport and have an expertise about them. And being in my fifties now, I set a low bar for myself, and that is simply DO NOT DIE, so I appreciate getting the do’s and don’t’s of how to ride through and in certain conditions.
Why is it so difficult for me to make things right with my wife? I cannot tell you the number of times that I have replayed a situation or conversation in my mind, only to be both judge and jury and be found “innocent.” As a guy, I have this very unbiblical perception that being a “good husband” means to be shown right in all that I do or to never show weakness.
The very fact that I think this way at times only serves making things right that much harder.
I am afraid that we have adopted the “winning is the most important thing” so much that we have forgotten how to lose with grace. Yes, I have won a championship as a coach, but the truth is that most of my moments were not singing some rendition of “One Shining Moment.”
My coaching gig is long done and now my basketball moments are spent doing stats for my wife’s girls’ varsity basketball team for our high school in Pembine. I have been associated with this team for almost five years now, with four of those years with my daughters playing, and now just having an excuse to hang with my wife.
There is more than one way to learn something, but not all are created equal.
For example, I love to cook meat on my barbecue and I also enjoy slicing the meat to prepare for eating. And there have been at least two ways that I have become experienced in how to cut meat.
The first method involves my wife. Since she is quite the culinary woman, she has instructed me in how to slice certain meats for both aesthetic appearance as well as a satisfying eating experience by our guests.
Back in a prior career, I was in the retirement plan division of a large insurance company. And after a few years, I was promoted to a regional team leader position. And this meant I had a team under me for which I was responsible.
There are two individuals from this team that stand out from that leadership experience. The first was an analyst who complained about any roadblock that was laying across his path. Thinking was confined to his desk. Every molehill was a mountain. Every customer was an idiot. Every problem was a setback with no creative solutions in sight.
And we had several conversations about these things. He was never going to go further than his current influence because that is what he chose for himself. Victim.
Change. Not a word we always like to speak about as leaders. Personal change is never easy, especially when it involves my own character. And there just seems to be an increased level of difficulty when it involves change of those around me with whom I have influence or responsibility. So how do I help others change?
I consider one of my roles as a leader to help shape those in my sphere of influence. Leading is not just about projects. It is more importantly about people.
Today we are on my final post of my “everyday carry” (or EDC) for leadership. It has been extremely helpful for me to think through those essentials that help me to be a strong leader and maximize my influence with others.
Have you ever considered those items that are foundational to your being an engaging leader? You need to. Because no one ever drifts into healthy leadership practices. What are your “go to’s”?
In the past three weeks, we have looked at some of the essentials of what I “carry with me” in order to have a vibrancy and robustness in interacting with people and projects: indispensable reads, personal character traits, and last week, apps that I use that are getting it done for me.
In recent weeks, I have been discussing that necessary gear, tangible or intangible, that is helping me be a more effective leader. I call them my “everyday carry” items for leadership. Part 1 is an ensemble of readings and writings that are making a dent in my thinking. Part 2 articulated four character traits that I deem absolutely essential to “getting it done.”
In part 3 today, I want to share with you four apps that are giving me the ability to manage my day as well as interactions with others. And these apps have both desktop and mobile versions available which give some nice multi-platform functionality.